Valentine’s Day: Celebrating God’s Beautiful Design for Marriage

At Becoming the One, we believe that if someone desires to get married one day, it is because God placed that longing in their heart. That’s a mysterious, precious idea, isn’t it—that someone wants to get married because God wants them to get married? Far too often, we make marriage more complicated than it needs to be.

Marriage is, after all, God’s idea. He is the One who created it, and He delights in bringing people together through love stories that inspire and bring hope.

Every February 14 we celebrate a man named Valentine, who deeply believed in the sanctity of marriage. During a time when Emperor Claudius outlawed marriage, Saint Valentine defied the law and kept performing wedding ceremonies, even at the risk of his own life. His commitment to marriage ultimately led to his arrest and execution.

Saint Valentine’s story is a powerful reminder that marriage is not just a contract but a calling—a sacred union God established. Beyond the chocolates, flowers, and sweet notes, there is a deeper, more profound reason to reflect on this special day—a reason that can change our understanding of love and marriage forever.

Valentine’s Day is a day to remember the beautiful and sacred covenant of marriage, which God Himself designed.

What Is Marriage?

Marriage is a covenant between a man, a woman, and God Himself. It’s a steadfast commitment that involves two people who are willing to honor each other and God for the rest of their lives, with sacrifice being a core part of the journey.

Genesis 2:23–24 clearly reveals God’s intent for marriage:

The man said,

“This is now bone of my bones
    and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman,’
    for she was taken out of man.”

That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. (NIV)

That is the true definition of marriage as God sees it—two individuals becoming one flesh, united in purpose, spirit, and heart. Naked and unashamed, they are emotionally, spiritually, and physically vulnerable before each other, reflecting the beauty of true intimacy.

Intimacy: A Surprising Definition

Intimacy in marriage is often misunderstood. Many associate it only with physical closeness, but God designed intimacy to be so much deeper than sex alone.

Intimacy is about taking a deep look into your partner’s soul. It’s about sharing your thoughts, fears, dreams, and desires as you open up emotionally and spiritually to each other in ways that bring you closer to God and to one another.

When God created Adam and Eve, He also created Eden: a space where they could be fully vulnerable with each other without shame. Yes, lovemaking is a beautiful part of intimacy, but emotional and spiritual intimacy are just as important.

To be truly intimate with your spouse, you need three things:

1.  To love the person unconditionally,

2.  To accept their vulnerabilities, and

3.  To grow together in your relationship with God.

But What About Sex?!

In today’s world, many people feel pressured to rush into physical intimacy before marriage, but there is a powerful blessing in waiting as God’s Word teaches.

It’s important to understand that His call to purity is not restrictive but liberating. When we choose to honor God with our bodies and relationships, we open ourselves to the absolute fullness of His blessings. Waiting until marriage is about embracing His best for us and our future spouse. It’s about committing to emotional, spiritual, and physical unity that reflects His love.

Waiting for marriage allows us to build a solid foundation of trust, respect, and spiritual growth that will support the physical intimacy that comes later.

Physical intimacy, though wonderful and important, is just one part of the connection. As a marriage matures, the emotional and spiritual connection deepens, creating an unbreakable bond. This is the kind of intimacy that God desires for every couple—to be united in heart, mind, and spirit, to experience the fullness of His love together.

As singles, it’s essential to understand the weight of what marriage entails. The first thing we need to do—before stepping into marriage—is build a healthy, God-centered relationship. That means taking time to pray, seek God’s guidance, and grow emotionally and spiritually as individuals first and then as a couple.

A Valentine’s Day Blessing

On this Valentine’s Day, let’s celebrate the beauty of love and marriage—as God intended them to be! Think about the powerful example of Saint Valentine, who stood firm in his beliefs about the sanctity of marriage, even unto death.

If you are married or in a serious relationship, as you celebrate the day with your partner, remember God is the Author of love and covenant. He designed marriage to be a beautiful, holy, and sacred bond that reflects His love for us.

If you are single, we pray that you will grow in wisdom, patience, and purity as you await the day when you can join your future spouse in the covenant of marriage. May your relationship be built on the solid foundation of God’s love, and may your marriage be a testimony to the world of His faithfulness, goodness, and grace.

Happy Valentine’s Day! All the fullness of God’s love is with you—today and always.

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